Reblog: ‘Calling out’ and the limitations of accountability processes

By Rebecca Winter

Content warning: sexual violence, rape apologism.

Recently, I’ve been getting into discussions about whether calling out perpetrators of sexual violence and their supporters is a useful tactic. Some people have suggested that calling out is often unhelpful and doesn’t allow healing to occur. Instead, they suggest that we should focus on less public ways of responding to sexual violence. Apparently, we need to have more compassion for perpetrators and belief in their ability to change.

It has become fairly common for people to criticise ‘calling out’, as though public criticism of the actions of others began with the invention of tumblr. Some of these criticisms come from a genuine desire to think about how we can build more effective cultures of criticism within the left. But all too often, people criticise calling out to avoid dealing with underlying disagreements about which actions are actually worth criticising in the first place…..



(Hoping that) Women Hurt: regret as a tool of advocacy

“There’s another thing that bothers me about it, and that’s how the traumatised-woman-as-poster-girl creates a need for more traumatised women. The women who don’t regret their abortion or sex work threaten to undermine the effectiveness, as an advocacy tool, of those who do; thus, they must be silenced, discredited, or worse still, recruited. I say “worse still” because recruiting them often involves persuading them that they were traumatised all along and didn’t know it. Real-life examples are the woman who speaks unapologetically about her abortion and is invited to receive “counselling” from an anti-abortion agency, the sex worker who takes advantage of “exiting” services when she decides it’s time to move on and finds herself subjected to re-education programmes that recast her experience as abusive when she didn’t see it that way.”

Feminist Ire

Two weeks ago, Irish parliamentarians were invited to a presentation on the subject of “abortion regret”. While the invitation didn’t explicitly advocate for the continued illegality of abortion, no one could fail to recognise its underlying agenda: firstly because it came from Senator Rónán Mullen, who’s barely known for anything else, and secondly because the featured speaker, Julia Holcomb, is a spokesperson for Silent No More, a self-described “project of Priests for Life and Anglicans for Life”. Holcomb was there not only to share her own unhappy story, but to convince Irish politicians of the need to maintain our near-absolute ban on abortion, in an attempt to prevent others from experiencing the same regret.

This campaign is one example of what Yale Law Professor Reva Siegel calls “woman-protective anti-abortion argument” – a strategic shift away from the foetus fetishism that has traditionally defined the right-to-life movement, to centring the pregnant…

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Perpetrators of Abuse

People who have been abusive and/or complicit in the abuse of others. This list will be updated as needed with pertinent information in order to help vulnerable people avoid this dangerous individuals.

Some of these people may not seem dangerous, some of them may even be your friends. But in listing those who are complicit, it can act as a preemptive warning of possible danger. Those who are complicit (and only complicit) are assumed to be capable of much worse than complicity.

  • Laurelai Bailey @stuxnetsource

Known serial abuser, accused rapist of multiple women and transmisogynist. Tactics include gaslighting, victim blaming, pathological lying, doxxing and a victim complex. Almost completely disingenuous in what she says and does. Claims to have autism and borderline personality disorder. Calls herself a “polymath genius.” Owns many twitter handles/sockpuppet accounts.


Favorite victim labels:

  1. Psychopath
  2. Sociopath
  3. Narcissist
  4. Bitch
  5. Stalker
  6. Abuser

The use of such labels, publicly…

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