This is one of the best articles I’ve read in ages. It really hits the nail on the head!
Why I Reject Forgiveness Culture
By Elizabeth Switaj
For trauma survivors, there are many paths to healing and moving forward in life. Why does forgiveness culture demand that survivors forgive their abusers?
When I say that I am against forgiveness, I am not judging individuals who choose to forgive. If doing so helps you, then by all means, forgive. What I abhor is a culture that places demands on victims and survivors, insisting that we are not whole until we forgive. Forgiveness culture implies that betrayers and abusers can expect to be forgiven — they can hurt and harm and rage — and should their targets decline to forgive, they can rest smug in the assurance that the refusal reflects a flaw in their victims, not in themselves….